Have you ever felt that you’re not being loved by your parents? Do you feel alienated from them and you just don’t have a relationship with them? What do you do when they treat you badly and have no regards for you? How would you respond to them?
Many who are in broken homes don’t know how to treat their parents. They turn a cold shoulder and worst off they attack and fought with them. When you have differences with your parents, know that you need to respect them even though they may treat you wrong. They may be harsh but you still need to honour them. So how do you treat them when situations go all wrong?
First, start loving them even though they may not be lovable. Do simple things for them, like helping them wash the bowls and saucers and do things for them that they will appreciate.
Second, compliment your mum’s cooking and tell her that she cooks well and you’re enjoying the food. Sincerely thank her and tell her that you love her. If you can, help her to cook too.
Third, watch the TV program with them. Discuss about the show that you’re watching; perhaps they need explanation about what’s going on in the show. Make them laugh and laugh with them in the show.
Fourth, take them out for a meal or go shopping with them. Let them see the outside world as after all this time that they have been staying at home if they are retired. Perhaps go for a movie with them.
Fifth, help your mum clean the house, mop the floor or sweep the floor. Show an interest in doing housework and truly assists her when she does anything. She will truly appreciate your help as you are taking an interest in helping her.
Sixth, buy them gifts once in a while, or buy food home and allow them to taste outside food. Buy a dress for your mum or a shirt for your dad. I believe they are truly going to appreciate it.
Seventh, take time to talk to them in conversations. Tell them about your day and what you have done or anything exciting that will interest them. Tell them about your plans for the future, what you intend to do and what you hope to achieve. Let them know about your ambition.
Eight, do things with them, like gardening or help your dad to wash his car. Perhaps you might like to offer to paint the house and get them to paint with you.
Nine, say sorry and thank you to them when you offend them or when they offer to help you in any task. Be polite and gentle and and show humility and love towards them. Always compliment them when they do anything for you.
Ten, love them with all your heart and treat them well even times when they are harsh or they couldn’t understand you. Treat them with all respect and bless and honour them.
You’ll be surprised that as you do all these things, your relationship with your parents will grow out of love and good affirmation between you and them. Let your anger turns to joy as you serve them. Release all your bitterness and forgive them if they have done anything that hurt you. As you begin to forgive, know that your relationship will them will heal through time.
Expect nothing from your parents but give them love to show your appreciation for them. When you respect and honour your parents, know that you will have a long life. This is what the bible says. So, expect a good life for yourself by honouring your parents.
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