Are You a School Drop-out?

Are you a teenage drop-out from school? May be you are one that hated studies and your only desire is to quit school. Perhaps you find school life boring as you slept through classes and never quite understand why you are in school. Social events seem to be the only thing that caught your attention and outings like parties and gatherings are your desires. You know what I mean when you are one of the many who dislikes study.

I know of many school drop-outs who are doing very well in their career. As they mature, they began to like to study, and most would take self-helped courses to improve their working status. Majority of these people I know did very well in life and are even respected for their professions. Even many millionaires in the world do not have a proper education, but they succeeded in life because of hard work, diligence and perseverance.

You are your own boss. You hold the key to your own future. Successful people are the ones who go against all odds in life to attain their present positions. They are not afraid of hardwork and their daily routine is marked by discipline and tenacious hardwork. They are ambitious, career-minded, and think a lot about their future. Their discipline lifestyle cause them to succeed.

Take heart if you never go to a University. Self-taught efforts will see you succeed in life just like the many giants who are billionaires today. Never lose heart if you think you are uneducated; you can compensate for your future if you decide to make a head-start now to plan and work out your future. It is never too late in life to plan your successes. The aim is to start your planning now and work out your plans. It is with a plan that you can allow it to guide your future. Without a plan you can’t navigate your cause of actions and you do not have any direction to follow. You will end up a failure if you fail to plan.

The key is, have a course of actions as to what you want to do for the week, and starts to plan your medium and long term plans. With a clear direction as to what you want to accomplish, you will be able to set out for your daily plans. Aim high and you’ll be able to measure your success without being a mediocre. Your success is in your own hand. Stretch out your hand and start measuring your goals. You will only succeed if you determine to plan your future now. Set a perimeter for yourself and be the dreamer of your own goals. You will never fail if you start to begin your journey right now.

Siblings Squabbles

Have you ever thought what your family life would be like if you have controlled your temper, or you would  not have uttered those words that brought pain and strife within your family members. Family’s strife usually comes through everyday’s dealings of small matters, and if they are not dealt with, it can accumulate into big wounds and pains.

Siblings quarrels are a common sight in families, and usually when the parents take control and charge over those squabbles with the right approach towards their children without taking sides, then the children will not bury the hatchet of hate and strife among themselves.

I can testify that I am a victim of my parent’s attitude and respond towards my bad relationship with my siblings, as my parents are ignorant as to how to treat me and my siblings when we quarrel, as they do not have the slightest idea on how to teach or correct us in the right way. I forgive them for having taken sides towards my siblings against me even though I may not be in the wrong. My parents have built a strong opposition against me when it comes to family matters, as I am the odd one out and a black sheep in the family. They would oppose me no matter what I’ve done without seeing the right side of things. As a result, my relationship with my siblings are bad as we were not taught the right attitude and approach towards one another.

My relationship with my third sister is bad, as we quarrel since young and my parents have never help fix our problems. We are distant and oblivious to one another’s existence, as we may live in the same house but hardly communicate with one another. However, I’m determine to make right my relationship with her by trying to talk to her whenever we are together, but we may not be able to talk like a buddy or share our thoughts  freely with one another.

It saddens me that my relationship with my family members are bad, but I’m determine to change. I choose to control my anger when things don’t go right, but instead will try the assertiveness approach rather than being aggressive. I need God to change me as without Him I’m not able to change my character. However, God has done marvellous deeds in my life, as He has taken away my temper which was bad in the past and mould and changed me to be patient. He has worked in my life what seems like an impossible situation of isolation and alienation, to what I am now, where I treasure relationships and love my family members. God has transformed me what no words can describe what He has done. He is a God of the impossible and breakthroughs.

I serve an awesome God, and my family relationship is healing and I’m trusting Him to work out His purposes for my family. There is no problem too great that He cannot solve it, and there’s no problem too hard that He cannot soothes it. My trust is in God and when God works through in our lives, everything will turn out to be beautiful.

The strength of a Woman

Coming from a broken home is what many experience, as they go through the plight of life. Wife beating can be a real issue, as I’ve heard of families hurting because their mothers are being beaten by their fathers.  There is nothing so hurting to see women being treated in that way. So how do you respond when you see your husband beating you, or your mother being beaten by your father?

How does family react when there is such a horrible thing going on in the home? The atmosphere must be tense and usually the children either are distant from their father or they do not have a relationship with him. Woman is built with full of inner strength inside, as she slogs to meet ends need in the home by cooking and keeping the house neat and tidy, and goes all out to serve their husband, making sure that his needs are met

God has created a woman with such strength, and if she is not a housewife, she will be out there in the market place working. Children grow up identifying more with their mother than their father. She is a tower of strength in meeting her children’s need, making sure that they are taught the right way and grow up to be responsible men and women.

Husband that beats their wife does not know that he is given the responsibility to care for the family and to love his wife. He forgot that she is his pillar of strength, as woman is given to man to be his help-mate. If he abuse his responsibility, he is accountable to God. God gave woman to man to be his companion and he must treasure that without being abusive to his wife. The saying goes, “Behind a man’s success is his wife”.

Children grow by example. If they see their father beating up their mother, they too in turn will abuse their wife when they start their own family. It is therefore vitally important that fathers set a good example for their children to love his wife.

Do you come from broken home? Fret not, you can choose to do what is right when you start your own family, and you can choose to love your wife when you know God has given you a beautiful and priceless wife.

Start loving your wife and be the best for her as she is truly a precious jewel in thy sight.

Bitterness Is Like A Gourd

Bitterness is like sour grapes. It is distasteful and bitter. When one is subjected to constant bickering, gossip, slander and lies, the person would turn to be bitter. Nobody wants to be around a bitter person as he/she is not fun to be with.

Are you having relationship problem? Is bitterness eating you up as a gourd? Are you constantly being bitter that you lose all joy in life? Are you critical and judgemental that you fail to see your own faults? Be careful how you relate. Does your friends or family find you hard to get along? If you answer yes to all these questions, bitterness has eaten you up and you must be on your guard lest you become an oppressive person.

If you find no joy in your daily tasks, check yourself and see if you have gone bitter. Bitterness can eat you up and you’ll be constantly battling life issues. Choose to turn away from negative and bitter behaviour and you’ll not be depressive. Depression stems from bitterness and anger and it will destroy your life.

Never compromise what is right for wrong and do not fret. It turns to evil. Have nothing to do with evil and flee from it. Life is more important with good thoughts and deeds, and evil must take a back seat. You will have joy when you do good, but when you do evil, you’ll be bitter. Seek to have a good countenance.

Life is too precious to be bitter. Seek to do good and mercy shall follow you all the days of your life. Deal with your bitterness lest it destroys you. Joy is the goal that we should be aiming at and get rid of all bitterness lest you lose all your joy.

Do not allow bitterness to get hold of you, but you need to get hold of yourself and deal with bitterness as it comes in your life.

Write A Will

Do you have a will for your family assets? Are you heading for retirement as all your responsibilities in life are fulfilled? Maybe you’re holding on to some investment, but you want to know whether you’re alright financially to retire.

How you manage your assets are so important. Family disputes are something that commonly occur. To avoid family squabbles, it’s best to draw a will and in this way your assets are protected from those who you do not want to have a share on. It’s important that you plan carefully as to how you want to enact the will.

Relationship is vitally important in the family. It’s better to have a close-knit family, where decisions are made together, and there is mutual respect and support for one another. A warm family shows love, care and concern. You want to make sure that your family is alright as you plan your will.

Spending enough time with your family and finding out what they like or dislike can help to ease tensions in the relationship. It is through bonding that you grow close to your family members. Making a will demonstrates responsibility toward your loved ones.

There are to many family squabbles regarding assets as a will is not enacted. To prevent it from happening, do your family a favour by acting what is right and who you want to give your assets to. Through such planning you show that you care.

By all means enact a will and protect your family from fights and quarrels. Keep your family intact by writing a will.

Smile At Your Storm

Have you aborted a plan lately? Or are you experiencing miscarriage, where all your plans and hopes are dashed. Do you have high expectation but couldn’t execute the plans? Are you experiencing dryness and despair and have given up your dreams?

Whatever that you’re going through, know that a miscarriage plan brings heartaches and pains, and you just have to endure and maintain your poise. Look for solutions in your plans and don’t give up.

Life is a battlefield, with all the ups and downs, but you still need to go on in life. What solution then would you be targeting and are you getting the results that you want. First, smile at your storm. Look at it in the eye and never let a devastating situation got hold of you.

Second, make friends easily as having a peer support is important. Relate with others freely and share your problems with your friends and receive good advice.

Do not be withdrawn and never isolate yourself. When wounded do not fester on your circumstances negatively. Instead, smile always and maintain an inner strength to deal with your present problem. Stay happy and always help yourself with whatever that you’re going through.

Be positive and communicative and do something that you enjoy. Before the blues hit you, you’re on the way to victory. Never give up when it seems that the tides are against you. Seek to take control of yourself and persevere.

Life will get better as you learn to laugh at yourself and be-friend others.

What Is Your Solution To Problems

Are you at the verge of a mental breakdown? Does everything that you do seem to go wrong? Perhaps work is piling up and stress is what that is catching hold of you. Maybe you’re  into relationship problem and everything is at a frantic.

How do you scrub yourself out of the situation and how do you face your days without heading for a mental breakdown? Well, in order to beat the stress, you need to learn to relax. Taking things easy and rest are the best solutions. This is the time for you to gather family members or friends and get their support. Share with them what you’re going through and perhaps go for a holiday with them.

The problems that you face may be beyond you, but know that learning how to handle life problems is the greatest wisdom that we can possess. To beat life’s problem, you need to know how to find a solution to it. Sometimes we can’t solve our problems but we certainly can learn to overcome it by resting and slowing things down.

Some of the problems that we face will point us to a direction that we never see before, and by default you’ll probably find the answers. It is not luck but know that there is a God out there who cares. He can miraculously turn the situation around if we are aware that God exists. God has a way to allow situations and circumstances to get hold of us, as perhaps there is a lesson to learn or God is bringing us around to the realisation of our problems.

Sometimes God allows us to go through the pain in order to allow us to see who we really are. Our selfishness, sins, rebelliousness, stubbornness, rage and wrath, or whatever our bad temper may be, will allow us to see a glimpse as to who we really are. The answer to our short-comings is change. We need to change our attitude towards our family members and we need to change ourselves. However, changing can be the most difficult things to do or rather impossible. However with God, all things are possible with Him. God is our creator and He knows what we are made of. He understands our emotions and problems, and He will bring about a change if we would only acknowledge that He is God.

acknowledging God is the first step to healing. God is able to heal our hurts no matter how steep we are in our problems. As there is no way out sometimes in a situation, but with God it is easy for Him to effect a change. Your solution is to acknowledge God and He will take hold of your life. Just surrender to Him and God will show you His Son Jesus. Jesus came to solve humanity’s problem of sin by taking upon Himself the weight of the world’s sin, your sin and my sin. By dying on the cross His blood washes away our sin when we believe that He is God and by the very act of the Calvary cross, you and I have life if we were to surrender ourselves to Him and believe in Him. By acknowledging that Jesus is God, we shall have life salvation.

Take time to reflect this truth and allow the Spirit of God to speak to you and touch you.

Is Your Marriage OK?

Are you married? Marriage can be the best of life or it can be the worst for those who are caught up in a difficult marriage. Marriage vow is meant to be sacred and how you treat our spouse is so important in order to keep a good marriage.

However, I can say that for those who find their marriage a challenge, it is best to re=evaluate your life with your partner and start viewing your spouse as if you are newly married. I can understand that it’s hard to do that, but you need to reflect your love for your spouse once again and determine to make right in whatever problems that you face.

It is important that you must do all you can to save your marriage if you are to understand the underline problem in the marriage and seeks to start afresh in the relationship. Every problem comes with mistakes of both spouses doing wrong, but when you face difficulty, it is not the time to find out each other’s fault, but rather to just forget who’s wrong and forgive. It is vital that you start to love your spouse again, as that would mean saving your marriage.

There are so many issues in a relationship but the important thing is to look beyond the faults and start loving your spouse again. A marriage can be saved if we have a heart of love, which overlooks all faults and problems. It is better to be humble and to say sorry to one another in any wrong committed than to keep scores with your quarrels. Forgive and forget as you must always have a desire to want to keep your marriage alive. It’s a personal choice to love and in order to keep your marriage on a right footing, you must always love your spouse.

It all depends on you, whether you want to love your spouse inspite of all odds, or you want to call it quit. When you come to the point that you no longer can love, that is where your marriage is treading on dangerous ground. So at all course you need to revive your love for your spouse inspite of any misunderstanding, and in this way you are not keeping scores with your spouse.

If you deem your marriage as important, forgive and forget and get going with your marriage if you truly want to keep a family life. It is better to keep your marriage than to end your marriage in misery if in the first place you ever love your spouse.

Do You Have Enough Friends

Are you in the habits of throwing tantrum? Or, do you lose your temper easily? Are you bored down with a strings of bad relationships that there is no one that you can be accountable to? Maybe you do not know what it means to have a good relationship with people. Perhaps life seems bad and there is no one that you can turn to when you need help.

Probably you’re busy working that family life and social outings are something that you show no interest in building up your rapport with. Perhaps you face issues in life that you are unable to cope with. Whatever your circumstances, are you one that is easily irritated that have caused you from having good friends? Loneliness may not be the best thing for us as life consists of friendships and relationships with people.

Having good friends can be the best thing that can happen to us. We are created for relationships. Love is the thing that gets us moving in life. Having friends allow us to share our problems with people that we can trust. It’s never easy to carry our own load, but having acquaintances will make us happy. It is better to have friends than to have a character that is hot in temper that people shun away from. Good character invites people into our turf and life can never be more pleasant than having lots of friends.

If you want to live a good life, than have lots of friends. It promises to cheer your days and life can never be better than surrounding ourselves with good friends. Are you having trouble in making friends? Check your character and soon you’ll have lots of friends.

How To Arrest Depression

Have you ever thought what is it like to be depressed. All of us face those depressing moments one way or the other. Some people face a great degree of stress and depression while others may face a mild attack. Whatever it is, no one would like to face such a depressive mood, as we are made to be an optimist being.

Depression takes many forms of attack, like bi-polar depression, obsessive compulsive disorder, panic disorder, or split-personality. These kinds of attacks need medication and it can be termed as mental illness.

The best form of cure is to see a doctor and take medication. Without which it can be a very long process before one receives healing. How you cope with such a debilitating illness is to seek early help from the doctor. Some respond to medication well while others can drag a long time in their illness.

Besides seeking professional help, avoiding stress could be another way to resist the tension of depression. Stress usually triggers an effect of attack that if we are not careful to address it, it will lead to serious illnesses. It is good to relax after work and find some interesting things to do, like gardening, stroll at the nearby park, or go for a movie. Spending quality time with family members is also a way to de-stress and it builds strong bonds and good relationship too.

Sometimes changing a job may help the environment and ease serious tension at work. Some problems are difficult to solve and we may have to live with it for the time being, but we need friends and family members to help us experience love, which is very therapeutic.

The best way to get rid of stress is to relax. We need to learn how to relax and be still. We must not try to tackle problems all at one time, as sometimes time do help to ease the situation. Give yourself time to ponder and reflect on your problems and sometimes talking to other people will help a lot rather than bearing with the tension yourself. Have group outings and learn to laugh and be happy.

People are our greatest assets. They can bring joy, love and hope to us if we learn to cultivate good relationship with others. Be around with people who can help us. They are the ones that we rely on when the going is tough. It’s good to have a shoulder to cry upon, and bid sadness and pain to go away.