How to De-stress

By Deline Tan

What causes stress and how do we cope with it? Everyday we are bombarded with the stresses of life because of the demands of the day. Stress can be good and bad for the health, as too much stress causes health hazard with sicknesses like schizophrenia, high blood pressure and heart attack. A little stress causes us to be more alert and vigilant when the demands are there.

It is known that before the trigger of mental illness in a patient, she/he couldn’t cope with the amount of stress. With the nature of schizophrenia, which is often triggered by excessive stress, a person is subjected to risk if care is not taken to eliminate the stress. Stress also causes bad relationship with family members, as a little annoyance is enough to create a big mountain out of a molehill.

We have often heard that a little stress is good for our well-being and we perform better under pressure. Well, capitalised on the strength in making use of stress to improve your work, but do not allow it to overtake you that soon it becomes a real stressful moment. Pace out your work with wisdom and understanding as to how much you can take and what you can’t. It is good to work in what you can and try to seek help in what you can’t.

When is the most stressful moment for mothers? Can it be during the children’s examination period? Most parents get more anxious than their children when it comes to academy pursuit, because the parents want their children to score high marks and do well. What then should be the attitude of the mother when her children’s exam draws near? Well, if the children have been consistent in studying throughout the school-term, then there could be no anxiety. Infact with such anxiousness, it only causes the children to be anxious and may cause them from doing well. The point is, relax and allow your children to excel the way they have always been.

For working people, stress normally comes in a form of over-worked and under-rest. When can you balance between work and rest then? Well, do not carry the office work back home, as that would even create more stressful time at home, which is meant to be rest time. Most people carry their work-load back home hoping to work at it, only to find that they are building up a tremendous amount of stress for themselves. The answer is, leave what you can’t do today for tomorrow and at least your boss will understand that you have tried hard for the day. 

The most stressful moment for couples is when they delivered a baby. The baby wakes up in the middle of the night and demands milk and attention. What do the parents do? They have no choice but to wake up too and feed the child. This carries on until the child is at least two years old, and it certainly is a toil for the parents if both are working. Looking after children can be the most stressful thing for a mother because it takes up her strength and energy. The demands are great. I always hear mothers complain that it is not easy to devote time for the children with the high demands of housework and other responsibilities.

How then can we cope with stress? Well, the best is to relax and not be too worked-up by the demands of the day. Have a lovely evening with your spouse, chatting, if that takes away the stress, or go out with friends for a lovely cup of coffee if you need to de-stress yourself. Find something to do other than the daily chore. Read a magazine or go shopping, that might break the routine, and always remember to try and do something different.

The answer is, be different and you will find yourself able to cope better. The best answer is to go for a beautiful holiday far away to the Caribbean or go to Europe or some places. Such holiday can do you a lot of good as it takes away the chore of the day and the toil of years accumulated throughout your working years. The thing is, learn to relax and have fun and you will find that you will be refreshed and having more energy to build up your career or look after your children.

Manage your stress well and you’ll be able to manage yourself better. Relax, and  pleased yourself with whatever that you intend to do. At the end of the day, stay calm and tackle your problems if you need to, yet in the most unhurried way, with lots of time to do the rest.

Have You Plan For Your Destiny

What is your destiny in life? Life is full of adventure. There are so many things that we want to do that we may not find the time to do so. We may be busy with our life now, but are we doing the things that we should be doing everyday?

What is the one thing that you want to do today? It may mean the only thing that matters to you now if your destiny depends on it. The one thing that you want to do right now, e.g. baking a cake, draws a beautiful picture, read a book, cook a meal, whatever it is, it would mean that you’re doing these things because you enjoy it and your destiny is to fulfil the dreams that you’ve set out to do.

What are your plans for 2011? Have you planned to do what you want to achieve next year? What do you do to attain your dreams? Dreams are one thing, and achieving it is another. Your destiny on tomorrow depends on what you want to do today. Are your time well spend everyday. Do you plan what you want to do today?

What is the most important thing in your life? Dream of it and accomplish it today. Your today depends on your tomorrow. You have exactly a week to plan for your new year. Have you drafted your plans already. It is not too late as you can still plan right now. Your success next year depends on your success now – in your planning.   

What are the things that you want to do most with your family? What is the one thing that you want to attain in your job? Dream now and plan now – it leads to your destiny.

How Do You Face Failure?

Have you tasted failure? How do you go on? It’s easy to see others prospering and you yourself suffer lack. Have you ever dream how to get back. It is through failure that we will work for success. When you are down, don’t give up but get back yet once again. When you fall, you’re able to get up; it’s only when you are dead that you cannot get up to continue. Therefore, as you are still able, get up and strive on in life.

Life is beautiful if you look at it in a positive way. Relationship is great if you have a strong family. A successful career too is what everyone one is veering for, but if you try to climb the corporate ladder and face obstacles, what do you do. Do you go against all odds to see yourself beating your colleagues, or do you think successfully that you just have to work hard and things will turn to your favour.

How you face failures would be an opportunity for you to taste success if you keep at it and never to give up. You must weigh what causes your failure and you must be tenacious to spring back to life. Never be discouraged with your failures as there are a lot of opportunities to weave back in life. Stand tall and do not look back. Advance forward and taste success as you go on in life.

The essence is, never fear failure and never to give up, but keep working at it. Soon one day you’ll see your success round the corner and you can be a blessing to others. Thrive on to success and never look back.

What Is Success?

What is success to you? To many people, it means too many things. However, all of us want to succeed, and it takes hard work to achieve whatever dreams and goals that we may have. Hard work alone is not enough. We need tenaciousness and never-say-die attitude. We must hold on to our dreams even when the road is rough and tough, but we must walk into it.

One of the greatest obstacles that we face when we strive for success is ourself. We post the greatest obstacle to our own success out of ignorance or lack of help from people around us. We fail because it may be that we don’t know how to walk into our destiny. More often than not, we hinder ourself if we are critical and have a wrong and difficult attitude.

To succeed in life, go the extra mile with others, as people are our greatest possession. To be successful, we would need to be a failure first. It is through failing that we uncover the secrets to success. If we don’t fail, we may never succeed. Take a step at a time. Uncover your dreams and aim high.

To succeed in life, we must be teachable. Pride is the greatest destroyer of life if we take heed to it. Many successful people fall because of pride. They forgot where their humble beginning were. They are too quick to blow their tops.

In order to succeed in life, we must have a character of love, as love is the  litmus test whether we enjoy people and loved them. Take time to succeed, as you walk through the road of thorny thorns that will develop and mode your character. Without trials we will not succeed, and without  putting to test our abilities, we will never discover our potentials.

The key is, walk a humble road and success will wait for you on the other end.

Do You Have A Goal?

Do you have a direction and a goal in life? How do you measure your success in life and do you plan for your future? Without a goal in life, we’ll be heading in many different directions. We’ll be distracted on doing what we really want to do, and we’ll be missing out on those things that we can benefit from.

Life is a challenge. We must be willing to take risks and find out what ticks for us. There are one hundred and one things that we want to do. However, we cannot simply accomplice everything without a real definite goal for ourselves. We must dare to dream and take risk.

Goals can be measured if we set time to plan it out. Without a goal, we’ll have no direction. We can’t simply be aiming at no where. We must set definite plans and try to accomplish it. We must plan real goals and not have wishy washy ideas. You know yourself what is best for you and therefore you know your own plans. If you don’t have any goal, then sit back and start to think of one.

Real goal comes from real planning. Perhaps in your venture you may have failed in one way or the other. Do not let this deterred you from planning real goals. Nothing venture, nothing gain. So therefore be bold and plan your goals. Success comes to those who have a direction in life, and know what is ahead of them. They can see their future in their mind’s eyes and are always enthusiastic to venture out.

Dare to dream and make your dreams come true.

Is That You – God!

What is the most important thing in your life? A career? Family? Money? Friends? Religion? Whatever it is, how do you see yourself? A life without friends may feel lonely. Without money, perhaps you can’t enjoy the luxury things that you want. Without a good relationship with family members you may not be happy. Without a career then life must be pretty boring. However, without God life loses its meaning.

God, who created everything in this world is passionately interested in who you are. You may be struggling for a living, but somehow He will still provide. You may not understand what you’re going through but God has you in the palm of His hand. You may be going through a bad marriage, but God is urging you to change for the better. Friends may forsake you but God will not. If you cry out to Him He will hear your prayers and respond to your needs.

God is immensely interested in everything that concerns you. He cares for your family and He is interested in how you’re doing in your career. He watches over you when you sleep, and when you wake up the next morning, He is there to assure you that your day will be blessed if you were to commit it to Him. He directs and guides your path in everything that you do. He wants you to succeed and will pave the way for you. He is very interested in everything about you.

As God is interested about you, are you interested to know Him? Do you see that He is the most important Person in everything that concerns you? Do you talk to Him and tell Him everything that is in your way? Do you walk with Him like a friend, talking and communicating with Him every moment? Is God your everything?

The greatest joy is when God begins to talk to you after you have drawn yourself to Him and talk to Him everyday. When God begins to communicate with you, know that you are in the safest place that you can be. Nothing will hinder you from knowing what is God’s heart and His will for your life. As you talk to Him and know Him, He will reveal Himself to you.

The joy of knowing God is immense. There is nothing in this life that you can trade for except hearing the voice of God and knowing Him. Would you talk to God now and tell Him that He is the most important Person in your life, not things or life itself.

He is waiting for you.

Do You Have A Passport to Heaven

Do you have a passport to heaven? Heaven is a beautiful place to visit. Everything about heaven is God-breathe. God is in heaven, and if you want to meet God, you need a passport now, so that when you die, you can secure a place in heaven.

But how does you secure a passport to heaven? Is it what you do, to do good? Or, perhaps you give to charity and help the poor? Maybe you are religious but you do not have a relationship with God. After all, you can say you live a pretty good life without cheating or kill or commit adultery. But do all these things that you do ensure that you have a passport to heaven?

Do all roads of religion lead you to heaven? Can you recognise that we are all sinners and it is pretty hard for us to think of heaven as our home. God is light, and He does not entertain darkness at all. Man and God is separated because of sin. Sin mars us away from God. We are eternally separated from God because we are by nature sinful.

There is a gulf between heaven and earth. We are all in total darkness. However, it pains God to see us eternally dead, but God has a solution for us through His Son. He sent Jesus His Son to come to this earth to bridge that gap between God and men. Jesus willingly came to this earth 2000 years ago as a baby born in a manger. He grew up as a Son of Man as well as the Son of God. He is God’s only begotten Son.

The price that Jesus had to pay to redeem mankind from sin was enormous. He had to bear the whole world’s sin on His body on the cross when He willingly died on the cross for both your sins and my sins. It had been done and it is paid in full – our sin on His body – when you believe in Him, you shall be saved.

Jesus had done it all on Calvary’s cross. When you acknowledge that you are sinners and believe that Jesus died on the cross for your sin, and believe that He is the Son of God, the moment you believe in Jesus and accept Him as your Saviour, you shall be saved.

The cross that Jesus died bridged the gap between God and men. All you have to do is just believe and you shall be saved. When you believe in Jesus and call upon Him, He will come into your life, live with you and make you whole. All your sins will be washed and forgiven, and you shall be saved. The name of Jesus frees you from your sins. All you have to do is to call upon Him now and He will come into your life. Open up your heart to Him and see your salvation at hand. It only takes a step, and that is to invite Jesus into your heart and you are washed and cleansed by the blood of Jesus.

Have you said that prayer to ask Jesus to come into your life? Take the step now to do so and you will see the hand of God upon you. You shall gain a passport to heaven and you will forever be with God eternally in heaven with Him.

Have you taken the first step now by believing and accepting Jesus into your life? Take a moment to do so and you shall be eternally saved. Have you gain your passport to heaven?