Stress – How To Handle It

Stress – a factor in life as all of us faced up with it in one way or the other. As we go to work everyday, stress is one of those adrenalin high moments where temper may flare and by the end of the day we are totally exhausted.

How then can we reduce stress and still hit our target in our goals that we set for ourselves. The way to handle it is to rest from all anxieties. Helping yourself to smile and relax would do the trick. Instead of trying to solve everything that comes our way, we should sometimes just let go. For example, if you find yourself not being able to hit your sales target, do not despair, just relax for the time being, and spring up again with more energy the next time you faced with your goals again.

Not pushing yourself too hard for any task may sound like laziness, but what really is happening is that you’re trying to gain momentum and energy, aiming to hit the target when you are more ready. In this way you are gaining control over your situation and you’ll feel empowered to tackle the goals when you’ve rested enough.

The key is, rest when you needed it and you’ll gain more strength to handle your targets or problems. A well-rested mind will be more focus in the direction that you’re heading.

Some problems are more complicated and need strategies, wisdom and ideas to handle them. Seeking help from colleagues or family members can be one of the ways to gain understanding in how to handle the conflicts. Two heads are better than one. Sometimes you need a shoulder to cry on and that’s where sharing with other people helps.

Whatever your circumstances do not let stress get a hold of you as it may lead to sickness. Depression is one of the most common occurence when we allow too much stress to lay hold of us. Seek to destress through outdoor activities or go for a movie. Spend the weekends with your family at the beach or determine to travel to a relaxing overseas trip like Tioman in Thailand, Desaru or Pualau Spring in Malaysia. Best of all, visit the Disney land in Japan or the US and you’ll truly have a very well-rested time.

Find time to do things with your loved ones, like going for a restaurant meal rather than home-cook or go shopping. There are hundred and one things to do if you allow your creativity to find something useful to do. Reading a novel can be very relaxing too, or browse through the magazine stand and read how-to’s articles to learn from  them. You may even find solutions to your problems as you read those articles. Surfing the blogs in the Internet too, can be a relaxing thing to do.

Rest enough for yourself and once the stress level improves, you can reach your high goals yet once again. Whatever you do, enjoy it.

Are Your Problems Too Great?

Life is exciting if you know how to live life to the fullest. However in this fallen world we have lots of problems and struggles that we have to face with, and sometimes life seems a little dawning.

We all have struggles in life. It is how you faced it and handled it that determine your solution. Sometimes there’s no solution at all and we may even suffer from depression. However, there is no problem that is too great to handle if you were to handle the problems to God. God is our Creator and He knows our make-up. He knows when we lie down and when we sit up. He even knows what you’re planning to eat for your lunch. He sees right through your heart and He knows every of your struggles. Nothing is too difficult or impossible for Him.

We always want to have a quick solution and we’re so impatient to get out of our problems without truly facing up with it and handle it. Yes, we are escapist, trying to hide in a corner with our problems and shut ourselves away from our friends and the world. We’re always running away from our problems. Unless and until we face with our circumstances, we will never find the solution.

We are sometimes like the ostrich who dup its head in the mud. We dare not face the world as to what we are going through, and deep inside of us we are crying out desperately. Can you identify with this?

Running away from our problems is not the answer. If we’re not prepared to face  our problems, we’ll never have the answer. However, nothing is too difficult for God and nothing is impossible for Him. We need to stretch our faith to believe Him for the answers. As we knock on heaven’s door and cry out to God desperately, that’s where our solution will come. What happens in the natural has to be worked out in the spiritual first. As we pray and cry out to God, that’s where our answers will thrive. The answer is: ask, seek, knock and find and that’s where God will begin to show you the answer. Matt 7:7.

No problem is too great for God. The answer lies in Him. We must take time to seek Him and allow Him to come into our lives and work through with us all our idiosyncracies. The way to God is open if we are to take time to acknowledge God and ask Him for His answers and solutions. Do not be discouraged, we have a compassionate God who wants to help us; we just need to open our mouth and ask Him to intervene in our lives. The solution is only a stone throw away. Cry out to our great God and He’ll answer you.

Have You Plan Your Future?

Have you ever thought what is it like to own a comfortable home and debt-free? Yes, you can be debt-free, free from mortgage payment and able to enjoy your retirement comfortably.

It’s great to own a beautiful house, as all of us dream of it. You can if you were to take steps to plan a suitable strategy on how to save. Putting money in the bank does not give you the full leverage to invest if you want to allow your money to be used in a more constructive ways. There are two ways about it. Property and Insurance. If you own a property, you can sell it at a high price and buy another killer house if you like.

Financial investment allows you to use your funds in a constructive way, as you invest a small amount yearly and at the end of the term you can accumulate a large sum for your retirement years. It depends on the scheme that you invest in and how a Financial Investment Executive can help you.

There are many different types of investment plans that can suit your financial status; as if you have children you want to consider educational plans for their university years.

However ways you put your eggs in the basket, plan your budget well and see that you have enough for leisure in your monthly income. The 80/20 planning is a good idea, where you plan to use your money in a tangible way with the 80 per cent, and save the other 20 per cent for your personal use.

Without planning you may not know where you’re channeling your money to and eventually you’ll spend them all. It’s good to have some access for your rainy days usage, as you may run into emergency and you have access to back on.

However ways you plan your budget, always have surplus to back up your savings. So if you want to have a beautiful home to return to everyday, and a good great amount for your retirement years, start planning now and works towards your future.

Life is never better if we plan our future and have a better life.

Do Your Children Love You

Do you have run away children? Perhaps your child may be a challenged with life and couldn’t find any significance in his/her home and decided to pack his/her bag and run away.

Whatever the circumstances, you as parents are responsible to your child’s well-being. Why don’t you evaluate your circumstances as to why he/she runs away. Insecurity could be one reason, or lack of attention may be another.

Know that your child needs love and have you been nurturing him/her with your tender care. Does he/she been able to talk and relate with you on a consistent basis. Does your child share with you his/her greatest woe. Are you a kind parent to him/her?

Upbringing of your children is vitally important. Either you have built love and trust in them, or they are going wayward towards a deadly dangerous path. Have you put a hedge of protection over them with good upbringing or they are rebelliously corrupt. Do you show them the respect of life and are interested in every of their needs. How do they view you?

Love is the greatest asset that a parent should have. As the children are taught the ways of life and are constantly feeding on your love, your children will be close to you and there will be no communication gap. Praise and affirmation are what they need and a good hug and warm kisses will go a long way in cultivating good moral support that they need in their growing up years.

Have you fulfilled your responsibility in bringing up your children? Do they respect you and honour you as parent? How is your relationship with them? As you love and care for your child with love and good support in their needs, know that when they are adults they too will love and take care for you. The question is, have you bring up your children with the best care and discipline and will they honour you when you are old?

Such questions only heighten your responsibility as parents and do you bring up a child in the way that they should go? The greatest praise that you can get from your children is that they in return will tell you that you are great and they love you.

Sexual Abuse – How To receive Healing?

Have you ever thought what it is like to be alone and isolated? Many of us feel that way, yet we do not know how to get out of our depression and to relate to people. Sexual abuse is one of the most common occurence in the day to day life, and many are hurt by it and yet do not know how to get out of this debilitating situation.

Those who suffer sexual abuse seem to be marred in life. The feelings of guilt and pain overwhelm them, and they hide in their cocoon state and do not know how to be free from such a trauma that they went through. It is like a prisoner that’s been behind the things of life and never seems to move forward.

How then do they get out of this wound and how can their lives be made whole again? In order to be healed, there needs to be forgiveness towards the party that hurts her. Without it there will be strong bitterness, hatred and anger toward the offender. Such deep rooted anger is very unhealthy as it may lead to chronic disease.

Without forgiveness the afflicted will never know true freedom. To hate is to murder and in such a condition, the person will never know what is true freedom. To receive healing, God alone can heal but it takes the person to be willing to be set free. It takes courage to step out and forgive the offender and allow God to heal the wound that is deeply abated in the subconscious. Only God can unrevile that. 

To be whole and complete, it is necessary to forgive and let God’s healing touch restore the person. The person can be whole if she so desires it but it takes surrender of self to do that. It is better to forgive and be free, then to be a prisoner of oneself.

The pain may be unbearable but there is healing if she is willing to let go. Allow God to do the miraculous and trust Him to heal, and the person’s part is to forgive. Wholeness can only come if she is to trust God completely.

Whatever abuse that a person is going through, know that healing is available if she is to cry out to God. Let God do the healing work and allow Him to do it.

The Sacred Marriage Vow

Broken relationship is devastating!

When we first tied our knots by saying that in sickness or in health we will prevail for our spouse, then 20 years later when we look back, can we honestly say that we have kept our vows?

The marriage vow is the most sacred covenant between the husband and wife. When we say “I do” to our newly wedded wife or husband, we are saying in essence that till death do us part. However, do we keep our vows till to-date and how is your marriage doing?

The saddest part in a marriage is when one or both lost their first love and life becomes miserable. How then can you restore your marriage and keep that covenant going? Divorce is ever on the rise, and how do we keep going with our spouse when all seem bad?

Our marriage vow is like a triangle. There is this relationship between the husband and wife, and then the third person is the higher Being. God watches us in our relationship to one another and He is committed to help us stay in that triangle if we too are committed to God to take care of us. In a three-fold-cord, the marriage is not easily broken. However, if we neglect our relationship with God, then we are standing in a very precarious position because we are now disconnected with the three-fold-cords.

Marriages are restored when our relationship with God is made right, for He watches over us, in our coming in and our going out. It is only when we have a right standing with God and our relationship with Him is secured that in turn we can be secured with our spouse.

Turn your relationship to God and watch Him begin to mend and heal those wounds. Allow God to do a surgery in your marriage and allow time to heal. Do not rush into hasty decision until you meet God. It is only God alone that can restore your marriage. Have you given Him  your candles, that in the lamp stand, there are three fires glowing. 

It is never too late to call on God as He still watches over you if you would only surrender to Him. Fret no longer and hang your marriage key to the Master-Builder again.

Alcoholism – You Can Be Delivered

Alcohol – the drink that can get you hooked for life if you’re not careful to drink to moderation. Yes, alcohol can be a deadly drink that can keep you forever bound if you’re given to excessive intake. Many alcoholics desperately wanted to be out of their addicted condition but don’t know where to get help. The answer is simple. God can help you.

Yes, without God intervening, you can never get the help that you need and wanted. The problem is deep-rooted spiritually, that will-power is not sufficient enough to get you out of the problem. There are alcoholics who are touched by God and instantaneously, just overnight they are delivered from alcoholism. God has the power to change life and He can free an alcoholic if that person wants to surrender his life to God.

The solution is found in God. When God touched you, you are forever transformed. Life takes on a new meaning and there is nothing too difficult for God. The question is, will you be willing to surrender yourself to God? God loved us so much that He is willing to send His only begotten Son who is Jesus to come to this world and die for our sins. God gave His Son to us that we might live as Jesus paid the penalty of our sins by being a substitute who died for us on the cross, that when we believe in Him, we shall be saved.

Jesus was made sin for us that when He died on the cross, the whole world’s sin was upon His body. His blood that was shed washed and cleansed us from all unrighteousness. When we believe in Him, we shall be saved. Jesus has done all that He needed to do on the cross and on our part, we just need to believe and receive Him. Jesus is opening His arm wide to you and ask you to accept Him as your personal Lord and Saviour. When you give your life to Jesus, all sins in you are broken and forgiven, and you can find your rest and peace in God. All you have to do is to believe that Jesus died on the cross for your sin and when you surrender yourself to Him, all your sins are forgiven and washed away. There is power in the resurrection of Jesus.

Do you want to surrender your life to Jesus? Hold back no more because of what Jesus had already done for you. Believe and receive Jesus now as your Saviour and you shall be saved. Call upon Him now and receive Him into your heart. You can do that right now and you can invite Jesus to come into your heart. If you want to receive Jesus as your personal Saviour, then say this prayer in your heart:

Dear Lord Jesus, I know I am a sinner but I now invite You into my heart. Thank You for dying on the cross for my sin. I now surrender myself to You and accept You as my personal Lord and Saviour. I give my all to You and thank You I am now your child as I give my life to You. In Jesus most precious and holy name I pray, amen!

Heading For Retirement

Are you one of those who loved children but are childless. You may have missed your golden years to bear children in your younger days, but now you are heading for retirement. Your house is empty except perhaps with a mate. You may feel lonely and isolated, but know that inspite of the situation, you don’t have to feel alone or abandoned.

First thing you need to realise is that you’ve reached the stage where you want to enjoy life the most. When you are retired, that’s the time where you can do all the things that you’ve always wanted to do which you are unable to do during your working adult years. Now is the best opportunity for you to “catch up” with life and you have all the time in the world to do all that you wanted to do.

What then do you do with your time? If you like you can plan your schedules, listing all the things that you want to do and go and do it. You may plan for a month long holiday in your favourite destination, or you may want to visit your relatives overseas, planning to keep in touch with those whom you like to spend your time with. Whatever you plan to do, know that this is the season where you can build up old relationship and enjoy their companionship which you were unable to do so years ago.

Besides holiday, may be you plan to give off your time for charity work in which you can bless those who are less fortunate. Visiting old folks home can be an interesting time spent, as you encourage those whom you too may want to encourage yourself. It’s never too old to get into sports if you’ve always wanted to play golf, and now you find that you have plenty of time to do so. Or perhaps you are a movie lover, and you can plan to watch all the shows that you would love to be kept entertained. How does your list goes from here…

Finding time to do what you want to do now is feasible if you find the energy to do so, and that’s why it is important to keep fit and healthy so that you can do all that you wanted to do. You may want to exercise everyday with light stretching or take a stroll at the park with your spouse and enjoy the nature – beautiful flowers and scenic nature plants to give you the shade that you may need. The point is, enjoy your retirement and do all that you’ve always wanted to do and enjoy your old age. There can never be enough time to do all that you wanted to do.

Be Gentle In Office Politics

Have you ever thought what life would be like if there’s no politics in the office? Imagine yourself in the midst of office crisis; like you loose all the money for your company, you had a heated argument with your boss, or someone just passed by you in your sales quota?

Whatever situations you find yourself in, know that there’s always a way out. First, evaluate your situation and count whether you’ll benefit from the circumstances if you were to give off of yourself kindly to your colleagues. Secondly, don’t bear grudges and forgive. Thirdly, see others as more important than yourself and in return you’ll see that others too will support you. Finally, give off your best to fight the conflicts without you causing a bad relationship with the person. Tolerance is the answer.

Sometimes we cannot avoid office politics, but do brace yourself with humility to tackle others with your problems. This may sound contradictory but know that it is through humility that others will respond to you better if you’ve conflicts with them. Show love and others will find it harder to attack you. Unless the person are unreasonable, do not fight to give your demands. Do what you know is right and leave the situation as it is as God will see from above and vindicate you. Always treat others well and in return you’ll have lots of friends.

Be nice and friendly and you’ll not have conflicts with others. Always think of others first and you yourself will get the attention from others. Always think of the good of others and you’ll be repay with good. Sometimes relationship is tricky and you must discern where you are at with the person. If he/she attack you maliciously, than you need to be assertive but not aggressive. Be gentle and correct those who are in opposition against you. They will be put to shame if they opposed you without any reason.

Do to others what you want others to do to you. Give and you’ll be given. Be kind and gentle as these characteristic are honourable. You will gain friends if your heart’s desire is humility. Know that whatever you do, you are appreciated if you give your best to others. You’ll not have any enemy but good friends are waiting for you.

Do You Love Yourself

Do you love your self? If you do, that’s good, but if you don’t, how do you expect others to love you if you don’t first accept your self?

Loving one’s self is equivalent to others loving you. When we have low self esteem, we can’t function optimumly. We will suffer inferiority complex and we will have negative perception about ourselves and others.

When life seems at its lowest and there is no way to turn to, we can expect that life is hard. When you are met with crisis, everything else seems to turn away from you and you feel isolated. The tendency to look at ourselves negatively is great. So how can you turn from your situations and circumstances?

Know yourself is key. If you find yourself negative, choose to turn to being positive. If you are critical about certain situations, turn away from it and start accepting others just as you expect others to accept you. You reap what you sow. When you find yourself angry, choose to turn the other cheek and be humble. You’ll be surprised that others will be taken aback by your behaviour and will in turn be nice to you. Do to others what you want them to do to you.

Check your temperament and try to change if you find yourself negative. Other people can read us better than ourselves and they can give us feedback about our behaviour. Give heed to it and make amendments. As we try little by little to change and adjust, we can better accept ourselves and others too, will look up to us. Sometimes we don’t have to give heed to other people’s opinion, but if they treat us lovingly, we can be assured that their opinions are right.

One way to measure whether we are likeable by others is to observe if we have many friends. If people don’t like us, we can still love ourselves because we are not led by how others treat us. We can expect to have enemies, but if the majority of the people treat us negatively, than we need to watch out. Change can be difficult, but it’s better to try than to leave things as it is.

Pain is inevitable in life. The challenges in life keep us on the alert. We need to confront situations sometimes, so that we will not appear weak. Do not let others take advantage of us and always stand tall when others want to put us down. Confront your enemies with boldness and you’ll find that they will flee from you. Be strong at all circumstances and do not let others defiant you.

To handle a relationship is a skill and as we observe how others carry themselves, we can learn from them. Sometimes when we are in pain, the situations will help to mould our characters. It is better to be tolerant than to loose one’s temper. To have self-control in one’s self is a good and noble thing.

Above all, learn to love yourself, change whatever you can change, and whatever you can’t change, God will help you. Be yourself and dare to venture.